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3 Reasons Negative Thoughts Hold You Back

Have you ever thought about why you have negative thoughts?  If you think about it for a minute you will realize there is a huge amount of negativity around you each day.  That’s why it’s so important to surround yourself with positive people and a positive environment.

Listen to the news. Listen to co-workers. Listen to people who participate in victim thinking. It’s usually negative or gossip.  Not always, but most of the time.

But the core of the matter is always about changing the behavior of people, and behavior change happens in highly successful situations mostly by speaking to people’s feelings – John Kotter, The Heart of Change

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It is so easy to let negative thoughts creep into your mind.  The key is to make sure they don’t influence your behavior.  What you stand or won’t stand for.

Here are some  ways negative thoughts can creep into your life.  It’s subtle, but it happens. You get complacent. You accept things you wouldn’t normally accept.

1. Negative talk or gossip – talking negative or gossiping causes a huge amount of negativity especially in the workplace or your family. The next time you feel like talking negative or gossiping about someone, walk away instead.  Do the opposite and encourage someone or compliment their work.

2. Worrying – do you worry about your health, your family, money and your job? All of these things can lead to negative thoughts which can become depressing.  I heard a preacher once say, “wait to worry.” Most of the things you worry about won’t happen.  Prepare, don’t worry. Outwork your competition, don’t worry.

Anxiety is experiencing failure in advance.  Worry is not preparation, and anxiety doesn’t make you better.  Commitment is the only thing that gets you through the chasm – Seth Godin, The Icarus Deception.

3. Blame – if you find that you blame others for your problems you are being dishonest with yourself. While some things may be out of your control, you need to stop blaming and finger pointing. Be part of the solution and not the problem.

Whom do accountable people blame? No one. Not even themselves – John G. Miller, The QBQ.

4. Jealousy – another huge source of negative thoughts. Always being jealous of someone or of a situation is not healthy. The reality is most people are never satisfied with what they have and always want more.  It’s easy to try and keep up with the Jones’ in today’s society. A bigger home. Another car. More debt. More of more.

It’s not having what you want, it’s wanting what you’ve got – Sheryl Crow Lyrics, Soak Up The Sun.

 

3 Reasons Negative Thoughts Can Hold You Back

 

Keys Lessons from the Brian Tracy Video

  • Negative thoughts hold you down and take away your joy.
  • Rationalization – you try to justify and explain away things by playing the role of the victim.
  • Over concern with how people treat you. Displaying little sense of self-worth apart from what others think.

Have a great weekend and stay positive!

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